I feel no shame writing this for my own gender, in fact I feel scared to write this because some ‘men’ can’t bear a single accusation on them, popularly known as ‘MCP’ (male chauvinist pigs). The male gender has been tainted by so many male rapists, male stalkers, male killers, male abusers and the list goes on. Women know it’s not all men, but because of seeing such horrible news, self-experiences, traumatic incidents, they can’t seem to remove the thought of ‘All men’. This thought has been printed or engraved within their conscious, their brain, their every step in life and every time they walk out of their house. They have second thoughts for each and every male friend, family, acquaintances, strangers they come across. They seem to have difficulty in trusting men, they feel uncomfortable when we touch them, they seem reluctant and prefer short conversations. Why?
It’s because of this world, us men have created. Dragging them down at each and every of their achievements, giving them limited opportunities, making them do all the housework, men feel less of themselves when women earn for the house. Educated men too blame women for not giving them a male child even when they know the entire scientific reason behind it. India as well as this earth can never be a safe haven for women unless we stop doing all of the aforementioned issues. Not only women are feeling unsafe but also men are terrorized. Men don’t speak about the abuse they go through and the torture they face because once they do the
society will no longer consider them as ‘men’. Again, social standards are majorly set by us, men. I am not establishing that all men are the only reason why many men can’t open up, women too ridicule men who cry or complain of mental health or try to speak of their traumatic events. It’s the way our Indian society was built but, I really think we ‘GenZ’ are going to bring major changes which these old people can’t even imagine.
Not drifting from the original topic, some ‘men’ also claim that it’s the clothes women wear and how they invite men over, how they drive men’s hunger towards fulfilling lust. Next time they say this, men and women don’t bother slapping them and quote that why are infants, children, men and elderly women raped? And guys if you think ‘violence’ is not the answer, then try and change my mind. Because if these men can have such opinions then they can possibly be a future or a present abuser and they must be stopped in their tracks. Men also state that not all men are the same but why is it always a man who rapes a woman, abuses a woman, traumatises a woman, burns a woman? I agree not all men are the same, rarely. But if among 10 men, even 1 of them is a person who disrespects women and the rest of the 9 stand and watch, then sadly, ‘All men are the same’. I would like to share a serious comeback thread for ‘Not all men’. It goes, ‘It is not all men but when your girlfriend talks to a boy, then it is all men. It is not all men but when your daughter wants to go for a walk at night, then it is all men. It is not all men but when your sister has a boyfriend, then it is all men. It is not all men but when your wife wants to earn for the family, then it is all men.’ I am surprised at how true this is. Next time when you say all men are not the same, try proving it to a woman who is your sister, daughter, girlfriend, friend, wife through your actions and genuine good intentions. Surely it will take time for them to trust us but it is worth it! Because earning a woman’s trust or for that matter anyone’s, is the greatest commitment one can give you.
How can we stop abuse towards women? How can we make this world a safe place for women? It is sad to say this but we have to use our ‘male privilege’ bestowed upon us by this society. Obviously, education, better living standards, equal rights, ending discrimination on the basis of caste and race are many of the solutions but using our privilege will have a far greater impact on the society. Let’s say a man shares news related to rapes, abuses, discrimination, reporting how some men are defaming the whole male gender. This way the entire male community feels relatable because in their opinion they think that the male opinion is what really has a perspective and female opinions are biased. I was once a part of this community and many of us were, weren’t we?
Finally, I plead all the men and the women to protect women and men from inhuman, heinous, disrespectful ‘men’. Together we can end this torture and trauma, we can make this world a better place to live in. WE CAN AND WE MUST! And to all the men who really stand up for women, fight for the sake of their justice, who are happy seeing women succeed, who respect women, this world really needs people like you! Men, let us undo the stains on our gender and let us fight for what’s right. Let us break down the walls of, ‘All men’ and let us aim for ‘No men’. Are you with me?
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